Category Archives: How I Do Psychotherapy

Separate Realities, Uncommon Knowledge

This complex post is for those of us who think we know it all and often behave as if we do – including psychotherapists and thinkers about psychotherapy.  It’s especially intended for those who have strong awareness of their own … Continue reading

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Goodbyes in Group Therapy

this is my response to a group member’s Email: I’m glad you’ll come for the complete, 3 more sessions, Goodbye.  It’s just what I’d imagine you’d decide, especially after yesterday’s session – a great demo and video of humans’ sometimes … Continue reading

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Bruce and Caitlyn Jenner

My response to my friend Dr Joe Burgo’s recent post, http://www.afterpsychotherapy.com/caitlyn-jenner/ Another thought provoking piece, Dr Joe ! I found a chuckle about “brain imagining “, as that’s the way I experience the colorful, influential and somewhat oversimplifying brain imaging research. … Continue reading

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UNC-CH Disaster, Practicing Passion, and TED Talks

A thought after last night’s basketball disaster for Tarheel fans; I’m sure Notre Dame fans are ecstatic. The better team last night won the ACC college basketball tournament, and I know certain avid UNC fans who’re still feeling bad, and … Continue reading

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My Email to a Client With Persistent Car Problems

  What follows may tickle, but don’t laugh – that’s what my dentist says just before he injects Novocaine – it actually transforms the physical experience of pain into a chuckle, by distracting attention from the unpleasant anticipation of pain … Continue reading

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How Much Therapist Self-Disclosure is Too Much?

My response to my friend Joe Burgo’s website post about therapist self-disclosure on http://www.afterpsychotherapy.com/input/  : “Unprofessional” seems to me a label many folks use when confusing their personal values and preferences with the a profession’s written code of ethics. There’s … Continue reading

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Issues vs Problems

Here’s my Emailed reply to the question “How do I let go of my attachment to desired outcomes, which leads to my suffering”      What do you think?   I strongly support phoning and spending time with other members … Continue reading

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Goodbyes in Group Therapy

Goodbyes in group therapy ​ often  allow​ more awareness​ of deeper feelings than  would ​be acknowledged in our usual everyday ​lives.  It’s a good idea ​​to actually begin Goodbyes​ 3 weeks ahead of leaving, so there is enough time over several sessions for a … Continue reading

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Video of my talk,”Evidence Based Clinical Hypnosis for Clients and Ourselves”

This is a video of a hour and a half public talk I gave in 2012 in the UNC-CH School of Social Work’s Clinical Lecture Series. It’s also available through “For Professionals”, in the top Home Page navigation bar — … Continue reading

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Encouraging Mistakes In Order to Facilitate Learning

A true story I shared with a colleague: When Milton Erickson sent each of his 7 kids off to first grade, he’d hide something behind his back, saying  ” Now, I want you to make LOTS OF MISTAKES in school, … Continue reading

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