HI J , I LOVE YR THOTFUL & THOT PROVOKING POSTS.
SEEMS TO ME ONE’S “ANSWER ” TO THIS QUERY DEPENDS MORE ON THE INTERACTION BETWEEN MY/ ONE’S WORLD VIEW ( CONSTRUCTION OF MY INNER SEPERATE / UNIQUE REALITY) , MY MOOD & EMOTIONAL FEELINGS , BASIC ASSUMPTIONS & DEFINITIONS RE LIFE & MY PLACE IN IT
THAN THE NARROWLY DRAWN QUESTION / CONSTRUCT.
WHAT I MEAN BY “TRY” , ” BEST” — FOR ME, “BEST EFFORT ” CAN USEFULY
BE LIMITED TO ONLY THIS MOMENT & WHO I AM ” now” , knowing i’m a constantly changing mixture of MULTIVARIOUS (? REAL WORD?) INFLUENCES , CAPACITIES , AWARENESS / FOCUS OF AWAreness, GENETICS , CHOICES & OPTIONS W/ DIFFERENT DEGREES OF VALUE & ” SAFETY’ .—THAT IN A WHILE I’LL BE DIFFERENT & LOOKIN’ @ THE SITUATION DIFFERENTLY.
RE ” STANDARDS “, I’D SUGGEST A RELATIVE RATHER THAN RIGID (PLATONIC FORM ?) DEFINITION–BASED ON WHAT I’VE OFFERED ABOVE. I WLDN’T “ALWAYS” TELL MY KID OR FRIEND ” U TRIED UR BEST…U CAN/ WILL DO BETTER NEXT TIME ..” , & I WLD SAY & CHOOSE TO THINK THAT OFTEN , ESP
WHEN DOMESTICATING MYSELF OR ANOTHER CHILD. IN A WORLD CONSTANTLY OFFERING SUCH COMPLEX CHALLENGES TO FEELING HAPPY & SATISFIED”enough” , STAYIN’ GROUNDED & BALANCED”enough” , BEING REALISTICALLY OPTIMISTIC”enough” , I CHOOSE THIS STANCE “BEST”( HA-HA),
I CAN , IN ORDER TO MAXIMIZE MY ACCEPTANCE & FORGIVNESS OF MYSELF & OTHERS –JUST CZ THAT MAKES ME FEEL BETTER.
WARMLY, DR BOB DICK