This post was forwarded by a client –Â it’s interesting to me that my clientelÂ has for decadesÂ beenÂ 75% Â menÂ , the polarÂ opposite of the usualÂ gender distribution .Â What do you make ofÂ this difference ?
from the Sunday NY Times–
May 21, 2011
Need Therapy? A Good Man Is Hard to Find
By BENEDICT CAREY
Between unresolved family conflicts, relationship struggles and his mixed-race identity, James Puckett had enough on his mind in college that he sought professional help. But after bouncing from one therapist to another, he still felt stuck.
â€œThey were all female, and they did give me some comfort,â€ said Mr. Puckett, 30, who works for a domestic-abuse program in Wisconsin. â€œBut I was getting the same rhetoric about changing my behavior without any challenge to see the bigger picture of what was behind these very male coping reactions, like putting your hand through a wall.â€
He decided to seek out a male therapist instead, and found that there were few of them. â€œIâ€™m just glad I ended up with the person I did,â€ said Mr. Puckett, who is no longer in therapy, â€œbecause for me it made all the difference.â€
Researchers began tracking the â€œfeminizationâ€ of mental health care more than a generation ago, when women started to outnumber men in fields like psychology and counseling. Today the takeover is almost complete.
Men earn only one in five of all masterâ€™s degrees awarded in psychology, down from half in the 1970s. They account for less than 10 percent of social workers under the age of 34, according to a recent survey. And their numbers have dwindled among professional counselors â€” to 10 percent of the American Counseling Associationâ€™s membership today from 30 percent in 1982 â€” and appear to be declining among marriage and family therapists.
Some college psychology programs cannot even attract male applicants, much less students. And at many therapistsâ€™ conferences, attendees with salt-and-pepper beards wander the hallways as lonely as peaceniks at a gun fair.
The result, many therapists argue, is that the profession is at risk of losing its appeal for a large group of sufferers â€” most of them men â€” who would like to receive therapy but prefer to start with a male therapist.
â€œThereâ€™s a way in which a guy grows up that he knows some things that women donâ€™t know, and vice versa,â€ said David Moultrup, a psychotherapist in Belmont, Mass. â€œBut that male viewpoint has been so devalued in the course of empowering little girls for the past 40 or 50 years that it is now all but lost in talk therapy. Society needs to have the choice, and the choice is being taken away.â€
The reasons for the shift are economic as well as cultural, most people in these professions agree. Managed care took a bite out of therapistsâ€™ incomes in the 1990s. Psychiatry, the most male-dominated corner of therapy, increasingly turned to drug treatments. And as women entered the work force in greater numbers, they proved to be more drawn to the talking cure than men â€” in giving the treatment as well as in receiving it.
â€œUsually women get blamed when a profession loses status, but in this case the trend started first, and men just evacuated,â€ said Dorothy Cantor, a former president of American Psychological Association who conducted a landmark study of gender and psychology in 1995. â€œWomen moved up into the field and took their place.â€
The impact of this gender switch on the value of therapy is negligible, studies suggest. A good therapist is a good therapist, male or female, and a mediocre one is a mediocre one. Shared experience may even be a impediment, in some cases: therapists often caution students against assuming that they have special insight into personâ€™s problems just because they have something in common.
Still, perception is all important when it comes to seeking help for the very first time. In a recent study among 266 college men, Ronald F. Levant, a psychologist at the University of Akron, found that a manâ€™s willingness to seek therapy was directly related to how strongly he agreed with traditionally male assumptions, like â€œI can usually handle whatever comes my way.â€ Such a man on the fence about seeking treatment could be discouraged by the prospect of talking to a woman.
â€œMany men like this believe that only another man can help them, and it doesnâ€™t matter whether thatâ€™s true or not,â€ Dr. Levant said. â€œWhatâ€™s important is what the client believes.â€
Both male therapists and men who have been in treatment agree that there are certain topics that â€” at least initially, all things being equal â€” are best discussed within gender. Sex is one, they say. And some men are far less ashamed about affairs when speaking to another man.
Aggression is another. Many men grow up in a world of hostile body language and real physical violence that is almost entirely invisible to women. A bar fight that sounds traumatic to a female therapist may be no more than a good night out for a man. Likewise, a stare-down in the sandbox that looks vanishingly trivial from a distance may lie like a poisoned well in the stream of the unconscious.
In some menâ€™s groups he used to run, Dr. Levant passed out index cards and had each participant write down the one thing he was most ashamed of, that he was reluctant to admit to himself, much less to anyone else. â€œI would get things like, â€˜I backed down from a fight in junior high school,â€™ â€ he said, â€œand these were mostly middle-aged, married guys.â€
In just the past few years, psychologists have identified a number of issues that are, in effect, male versions of the gender-identity issues that so many mothers face in the work force: the self-doubt of being a stay-at-home father, the tension between being a provider and being a father, even male post-partum depression.
â€œIn the same way that there is something very personal about being a mother, something very important to female identity, the experience of fathering is also very powerful,â€ said Aaron Rochlen, a psychologist at the University of Texas, Austin. â€œAnd some men, I think, prefer to talk about that â€” the joy of being a father, the stress, how itâ€™s impacting them â€” with a therapist whoâ€™s had the same experience,â€ from the same point of view.
If they can find one, that is. â€œI remember when I started training, I looked around and realized that for the first time in my life, I was an endangered minority,â€ said Ryan McKelley, a psychologist at the University of Wisconsin, La Crosse. â€œNow I tell my male students, if youâ€™re interested in clinical care, you can write your own ticket. Youâ€™ll be hired immediately.â€