Peggy Payne knows how rejection can be a good thing:
At 62, Iâ€™m still stewing over not being chosen to attend the Governorâ€™s School of North Carolina when I was 16.
Itâ€™s true that many good things have happened in my life: a happy marriage, a few books published, fulfilling years in journalism and freelance editing. But the fact remains that at age 16, I was not among those selected to spend six weeks in 1965 at the Governorâ€™s School, a renowned summer camp for brainy teenagers. And silly as it may seem, this rejection has helped my career.
Thatâ€™s because thereâ€™s nothing like a little â€œIâ€™ll show â€™emâ€ to incite ambition. Many people cherish their motivational insults.
â€œIt makes such a difference in your life when somebody tells you â€˜noâ€™ and you have enough survival instinct,â€ says Terry Vance, a psychologist in Chapel Hill, N.C. â€œIt spurs you.â€
Click to the full essay –> Â How Insults Spur Success, New York Times, 16 October 2011.