This complex post is for those of us who think we know it all and often behave as if we do – including psychotherapists and thinkers about psychotherapy. Â It’s especially intended for those who have strong awareness of their own emotions, but little and/or discounted awareness of other’s emotions – this wider focus is necessary for empathy and deep, lasting relational connectedness. Â The linguistic information in this post may be interesting, even intriguing, but my intent is to remind us of all we Don’t know. Â And hopefully access forbearance, in place of limited focus, primarily on our own inner feelings and intuition in interpersonal relationships.
My way of understanding people and doing therapy rely heavily on my inner focus  on both my own feelings and intuition about the Other’s inner state. Â I’m flat out wrong more than half the time – I’m able to stay closely connected with clients only when I remember two things:
1} Â that my inner, separate reality is not the client’s inner reality, and
2} Â to check my intuition by focused  inquiry into Their inner, separate reality. Â The Â third  focus necessary for helping clients is awareness of the wider community reality, and of the potential consequences and future implications of our choices in this wider system.
Before we get to which letters were late additions, letâ€™s explain a bit aboutÂ Old English. English was first written in theÂ Anglo-SaxonÂ futhorcÂ runicÂ alphabet, also known as Anglo-Saxon. TheÂ AnglesÂ andÂ SaxonsÂ came fromÂ GermanyÂ and settled inÂ BritainÂ in the fifth century. The region they inhabited became known asÂ â€œAngle-land,â€ or â€œEngland.â€
Eventually, Christian missionaries introduced theÂ Latin alphabet, which ultimately replaced Anglo-Saxon. But for some time, the alphabet included the letters of the Latin alphabet, some symbols (like theÂ ampersand), and some letters ofÂ Old English.
AsÂ Modern EnglishÂ evolved, the Old English letters were dropped or replaced.
(Our trusty alphabet isnâ€™t the only part of language that has changed â€”Â October used to be the eighth month, and September the seventh. What happened?Â Find out here.)
Hereâ€™s an example: In Old English, a letter called â€œthornâ€ represented the â€œthâ€ sound (as in â€œthatâ€) in Modern English. In the Latin alphabet, the â€œyâ€ was the symbol that most closely resembled the character that represented thorn. So, thorn was dropped and â€œyâ€ took its place. (But is â€œyâ€Â a vowel or a consonant? We explore the dilemmaÂ here.)
That is why the word â€œye,â€ as in â€œYe Olde Booke Shoppe,â€ is an archaic spelling of â€œthe.â€
The more we learn, the more we realize we don’t know, and that’s sure true about me.