My clients have found The Tools useful for dropping the fear & fear of pain that keeps folks stuck, even when they’re not strongly spiritual. Â Peggypayne.com
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The Tools: A Simple Brilliant System for Building Courage (and more)
The New YorkerÂ first alerted me to this wondrous book,Â The Tools.Â It’s by a pair of psychotherapists, both of whom wanted to be able to give clients Â immediately usable, effectiveÂ tactics for dealing better with life.Â It’s based on using your sticky situations as a cue/springboard to big leaps forward.
The subtitle is: Transform Your Problems into Courage, Confidence, and Creativity.Â Â I read it several weeks ago and have been using (intermittently) one of the tools.Â It has worked startlingly well.Â As with exercise machines: if you use them, they work.
The one I’ve latched onto is called Reversal of Desire.Â It’s not what it sounds like.Â The basic idea is that you rush gratefully and happily into the threatening situation,Â foreseeing the happiness and new strength and greater opportunities you’llÂ enjoy on coming out the other side.Â The mantra:Â Bring It On.Â Â The authors, Phil Stutz and Barry Michels, explain this much better than I have; the book is exciting.Â And the video here explains this first tool in charming diagrams.Â I love the one of the stick figure scurrying sheepishly back to his comfort zone.
Going by the anecdotes in The New Yorker story, the methods â€” there are 5 of them â€” have been well-tested on cllientele that includes a lot of movie people, including screenwriters. The stories include one of a guy who lost his fear of going on “Charlie Rose.”
But if you need courage and unhesitating confidence for any good purpose, I highly recommendÂ The ToolsÂ book.Â You may find out how to solve your problems, or at least deal with them more successfully.
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